First of all--THANK YOU to everyone who read my first post, sent me encouragement and made comments, etc. It means so much to me. And sometimes I really need to hear it.
Honestly, sometimes it doesn't feel like an accomplishment to lose weight. Yes, it was hard work, but with all the pressures in society, sometimes it feels more like--an obligation. In other words, sometimes I just feel like "well, I shouldn't have let myself get that way. So I don't deserve to feel good about this."
That's negative self-talk, and I think we women do that a lot. And I don't just mean overweight women. I mean ALL women. We're taught somehow that we should be humble and not bask in praise. That we should somehow downplay it.
I don't think men do that. At least not like we do. Can you imagine saying to your SO/husband type person, "Hey Tiger/Honey/Baby/SexyBriefs/Whatever, you look great." And him being like "Yeah, but my ankles are fat."
No, he's like "Hell yeah! I look GOOD. I am Eros, god of love!" And all day long he struts it like a male model at a Versace show.
But we women just aren't like that, are we? Isn't it easy when someone gives you a compliment to go outwardly or inwardly. "Yes, BUT."
Ever do this?
Other person: "You did great with your presentation in the meeting today."
The Negative Voice Inside: "Yes, but I said redunDANT instead of redunDUNT. Who says that? redunDUNT. I sounded like an idiot for that 15 seconds. I blew the whole thing."
Or...
Other person: "Wow. The renovation you did on the house is amazing. You designed all that yourself?!?"
The Negative Voice Inside: "Sure. It looks nice. But I could have done it 2 years ago when first I said I would. I never finish anything. If I had designed Mt. Rushmore, Teddy Roosevelt would be wearing a monocle because I STILL wouldn't have finished the second lens."
Actually, I'm pretty sure Teddy Roosevelt DID wear a monocle. Man, I should have known that. I suck at Presidential knowledge. I am a failure. I should stop writing this blog. Everyone will laugh at me...and--
STOP WITH THE NEGATIVE TALK.
That's my challenge to everyone who is reading this. Just stop doing it. You may not be able to get that voice that we've all been taught we should have to shut up right away. But the next time you do that...the next time you try to steal joy, an accomplishment, praise, pride away from yourself and that voice starts. Just say this:You: Oh, it's you. Well, thank you for your input. But I deserve this moment. Now kindly, piss off.
Then take your moment!
The negative voice is part of what made me overeat. It might be what makes you quieter than you'd like to be with new people. It might be what makes you not try for that promotion. It might be what makes you do any number of other things that you wish you wouldn't do but you do anyway.
The negative voice is bull shit. It doesn't see reality, and you CAN learn to get it to shut its mouth. But it takes time. And it takes practice. The next time it says something nasty to you, ask yourself
Would I ever say this demeaning, hurtful, spiteful thing to another person?
If not, please don't say it to you. You're worth more than that. :)
Anyway--now that I've pep talked everyone....let's look at some pretty things, shall we?
This Week's Obsessions: 24 Jan. 2014
This week brought snow and freezing cold temps. But it also brought a gorgeous sunrise with the snow glistening on the branches and the simple joy of watching my son do a dance of joy at the news the -10 degree windchill won him a 2-hour delay. I think my Faces of Eve feelings about the weather have led to a split personality with my obsessions this week, as they are either bold and bright or very dark. Ah well, takes all colors to make a wardrobe, eh? Without further ado, here are this week's obsessions:
1. Dress of the Week
Alberta Ferretti Lace Dress in Purple, StyleBop , $2675
If only. If only. IF ONLY. Way out of my price range, but WOW.
2. Top of the Week
Lace Affair Flirty, Frilly Top, Lace Affair $39.99
Peter Pan collars, how I love you! You could be my Peter Pan pixie dust thought to help me fly, perhaps.
Peter Pan collars, how I love you! You could be my Peter Pan pixie dust thought to help me fly, perhaps.
3. Bottom of the Week
Prep School Tulip Skirt, Jem Apparel, $35
I love tulip skirts. I think they're flattering for so many body shapes. And who can't do with another black skirt? Nobody. That's who.
I love tulip skirts. I think they're flattering for so many body shapes. And who can't do with another black skirt? Nobody. That's who.
4. Jacket of the Week
Shanghai Tang Cashmere Cardigan with Jade, Shanghai Tang, $765
This cardigan is just sublime. Real jade accents. Of course, that means a real big price tag, but that's why I add this drool-worthy number to the Pinterest boards and not the shopping cart.
This cardigan is just sublime. Real jade accents. Of course, that means a real big price tag, but that's why I add this drool-worthy number to the Pinterest boards and not the shopping cart.
5. Shoe of the Week
B. Brian Atwood Fontanne, HauteLook, Sold out :(
Dare you to wear pink and orange heels. Go on and try. Double dog dare you. You can't help but feel pretty when your feet are pink. Honest to blog.
Dare you to wear pink and orange heels. Go on and try. Double dog dare you. You can't help but feel pretty when your feet are pink. Honest to blog.
6. Jewelry of the Week
John S. Branna Copper Lily Pad Earrings, John S. Branna Copper Jewelry, $65
These speak for themselves.
These speak for themselves.
7. Bag of the Week
MeDusa Nina Clutch in Red, Boticca, $119
I had a bag like this when I was about 9. It was made of plastic and it had plastic lipstick inside of it. That little purse made me feel like I was Tiffany (remember her?!?). Anyway, this purse made me smile right away. How can you be reminded of the 80s and not smile?
I had a bag like this when I was about 9. It was made of plastic and it had plastic lipstick inside of it. That little purse made me feel like I was Tiffany (remember her?!?). Anyway, this purse made me smile right away. How can you be reminded of the 80s and not smile?
8. Accessory of the Week
Blugirl Blumarine Belt, Yoox.com, $75
It's a belt. That is gorgeous midnight blue and black. Oh and by the way, it has feathers. My deepest regrets, Other Belts. This belt wins everything.
It's a belt. That is gorgeous midnight blue and black. Oh and by the way, it has feathers. My deepest regrets, Other Belts. This belt wins everything.
8. Street Style Look of the Week
Oona via Hel Looks
First off, Oona is adorable. Secondly, I love every bit of the outfit into little bits and then I love those into littler bits and so on until I have loved this outfit into nothing but atoms. Third off, I had no idea that as a redhead I could wear red lipstick and not look like Ronald McDonald. So this picture is not only a lovely outfit, but it's also educational. Expect a new red lipstick color to be on the list next week, Ladies.
First off, Oona is adorable. Secondly, I love every bit of the outfit into little bits and then I love those into littler bits and so on until I have loved this outfit into nothing but atoms. Third off, I had no idea that as a redhead I could wear red lipstick and not look like Ronald McDonald. So this picture is not only a lovely outfit, but it's also educational. Expect a new red lipstick color to be on the list next week, Ladies.
9. Beauty Product of the Week
NUXE Reve de Miel Ultra Comfortable Body Cream, SkinStore.com, $29
This weather makes my skin dry. This cream makes it happy again. If you have eczema, you will love this stuff.
This weather makes my skin dry. This cream makes it happy again. If you have eczema, you will love this stuff.
10. Makeup Product of the Week
Too Faced Better Than False Eyelashes, SkinStore.com, $35
Okay. See that little tube? I don't know WHAT is in it. It kind of looks like feathers from some strange mythological bird. But when you put it on your eyelashes and then put the mascara in the other tube on, oh my! It's like false eyelashes, except they won't fall off. I might be the only one that this happens to, but my false eyelashes never stay on. I swear. Every time I wear them, I'm like Lucille Ball in Yours, Mine Ours. MOVIE CLIP TIME:
Okay. See that little tube? I don't know WHAT is in it. It kind of looks like feathers from some strange mythological bird. But when you put it on your eyelashes and then put the mascara in the other tube on, oh my! It's like false eyelashes, except they won't fall off. I might be the only one that this happens to, but my false eyelashes never stay on. I swear. Every time I wear them, I'm like Lucille Ball in Yours, Mine Ours. MOVIE CLIP TIME:
Anyway, when I use Better Than False, my eyelashes look lush, and they don't end up in anyone's Irish Coffee. And that's beauty success, right there.
Here's the TL; DR version: Thanks for being so awesome! You're awesome, too, so don't let that negative voice tell you otherwise. Teddy Roosevelt did, in fact, where a monocle. Pretty things are pretty. Eyelashes in Irish coffee are bad.
See you next time!
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